If so, you’re not alone.  Cigna recently released its 2020 Loneliness Index.  The survey found:

  • Three in five Americans (61%) report that they are lonely
  • Loneliness has a larger impact on certain demographics
    • Men are slightly lonelier than women
    • Younger people (18-22) are lonelier than older people (72+)
    • Those living in urban and suburban communities are less lonely than those in rural areas
  • Social media has a major impact on loneliness with very heavy social media users significantly more likely to feel alone, isolated, left out and without companionship
  • Loneliness has implications for the business community
    • Lonely workers say they are less engaged, less productive and report lower retention rates
    • They are twice as likely to miss a day of work due to illness and five times more likely to miss work due to stress
    • Remote workers are more likely than non-remote workers to always or sometimes feel alone

    With effort, you can change these feelings.  Here are a few suggestions from Toni Bernhard J.D.:

    • Don’t blame yourself in any way, shape, or form.
    • Seek relief from a non-human “friend.”  Chocolate cake, anyone?
    • Connect with a human friend if you can.
    • Do something creative, no matter how simple.
    • Help someone in need.
    • Call to mind others who are feeling lonely and send them kind and compassionate thoughts.
    • Visualize someplace you’d like to be—a fun gathering, the seashore, a sporting event—and see if, just for a moment, you can feel happy for those who are there.
    • Treat loneliness as an old friend who’s dropped in for a visit (despite not having received an invitation).
    • Remind yourself that life is not always fun and that tomorrow is a new day.
    • Sing.

    You can take the original loneliness test at this link:

    https://www.cigna.com/about-us/newsroom/studies-and-reports/loneliness-questionnaire

    References:

    cigna.com/CombattingLoneliness

    https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/turning-straw-gold/201612/10-things-try-when-you-re-feeling-lonely